Common Sense Approach
Funding Emotional Savings Accounts
Saving accounts are traditionally thought of from a financial perspective. When one has additional money, they may put it in an account that holds it for a later date. In many cases, that money earns interest, making its investment even more valuable.
How one feels about situations, people and events can also be stored away in an emotional savings account, where it can be depleted over time or it can grow and thrive with positive interest.
Emotion, like money, is virtually and literally all around us. Where and how we choose to store it can be very personal and sometimes overwhelming, just like managing money.
With this in mind, it is almost more crucial on how and where to manage your emotions, than the emotion itself. Feelings and emotion are normal and natural and come and go as they see fit.
How we understand, the better educated we are and knowing how to manage and store these feelings is crucial to our mental health. Similarly, being educated and understanding how to manage money is crucial to one’s financial health.
What one does with feelings is as important as having them, maybe more so.
Toolboxes for every Tool
If you only have a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
A common but great statement. When one only has a limited amount of tools to choose from, they tend to try to fix every problem with those tools.
Common Coping is a means to develop and add to one’s toolbox through understanding what tools are available and gaining the skills to wield them. A screw works best with a screwdriver, a nail works best when hit in place by a hammer, a bolt locks most effectively when tightened by a wrench. Sure, there are workarounds and ways to fix things using other items, we want to determine what works the most effectively with the least amount of stress to the tool and the user.
The more tools in one’s toolbox, the greater number of problems can be solved, and with greater efficiency.